As a dating or engaged couple, conversation probably comes easily. Just about anything that is, except ugly disagreements.This doesn’t change much in marriage except there are more things to disagree about.His concern was that families may misunderstand the purpose for the questions and miss out on potentially wonderful matches for their daughters. They are intended to help both parties get to know one another on a deeper and more deliberate level by creating points of discussion.In fact, our daughters have also filled out the questions, upon the request of certain suitors. This list is NOT meant to be a “checklist,” a “pass-or-fail-test,” or an in depth parental evaluation.
If anything, marriage accentuates the mild differences you have while dating or engaged. This is the time to face difficult conversations and make sure you are on the same page.
Due to the varying theological positions and personal convictions of Christian families, these courtship questions are designed to help disclose important facts that may be significant in both party’s decision of whether or not to move forward in courtship.
It is our prayer that these will be a help to those seeking godly marriages for their children.
Courtship allows you to see if the one you’ve almost chosen is the one you’ll choose for life at the altar. This is a mixed audience and these subjects would be better handled in another venue, preferably in the home, where these books can be read with parents as your guides. What I would like to address is the notion of courtship and how it differs from the modern concept of dating.
I would also like to cover who is eligible to court and what some appropriate parameters are. In order to contrast courtship and dating, let me give examples of each. Tom, who has been legally eligible to drive for about a year now, goes to Sally’s parents’ house.