“But we’ve been spending every available minute together.We work together and then he comes over every evening after work.” I responded that, yes, I did think the gift probably would be “too much” at this stage of her relationship, and it would be a sign of rushing the romance.But God had much more in mind with romance than orgasms or even procreation, and so should we. When people in the world are expecting less and less of each other in dating, God isn’t.So, as singles we have to work harder in our not-yet-married relationships to preserve what marriage ought to picture and provide.
Girls, stop expecting guys to make any formal attempt at winning your affections.Expressions of love, even when they are part of cute gifts, send a message.If Erica and her boyfriend have not yet reached the stage where they can honestly say “I love you” in conversation, to send this message through a gift would be deceiving.Sadly, my immature and unhealthy desires predictably did much more harm than good. Maybe dating has been hard for you too, for these reasons or others. It’s enough to leave you like an eight-year-old, asking, “Mom, where do weddings come from?” The vision of marriage we see in God’s word — the beautiful, radical display of God’s infinite, persevering love for sinners — makes it worth it to date, and date well.