(It will never be exactly the same for two different people.) Assess Your Proclivity for Indulgences While many behaviors in the extreme form represent a problem or even an addiction, some of those same behaviors can be harmless if not taken to the extreme.Consider a list of activities that fall on the hedonistic end of the behavioral spectrum: drinking alcohol, gambling, shopping, traveling, and spending, for example.she didn't know that she was graduating high school when he was just starting it. But she says the age difference, however small it is, is good for their relationship."He appreciates my point of view and values my opinion as much as I do his.Here are 10 things you’ll only understand if you’re dating a younger guy: You realize that most people think that age equals maturity. Just because I’m a girl I can’t date someone younger than me? When they find out my boyfriend is younger, one of the first things people ask me is if he’s immature. I obviously don’t think he’s immature if I’m dating him. People I barely know are always asking me, “But aren’t you worried about you guys not being on the same page? You’ll get used to those moments of realizing your childhoods were just a little different. I always seem to date guys between 10 to 20 years older than me, and from my relationships comes some of the best memories and experiences.I still get the common response from my friends: “He's too old for you! ” I've also had a few people in my life suggest that I do it because I am a “gold digger.”So, the broad answer is this: To clarify, I'm not dating older men because I am a “gold digger.” It's more important for me to pull my own weight and be financially stable.
But it was his dad potential that really won her over. The age difference has been good for us because I have a daughter from a previous relationship and Damian was more mature and able to navigate the delicacy of becoming a stepfather," she says.Or, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones, who are 25 years apart in age?In their defense, I hardly grew up dating or crushing on men close to my age group.I’ve heard so many different rules about dating someone older, and they all boil down to a magic number: “Don’t date anyone more than ten years older,” or “Marriages never work if there’s more than fifteen years’ difference.” People love rules, telling themselves that abiding by them will cause them to get hurt less. The most important rule to follow is a general one: Make sure the two of you have the same goals for the relationship and for your daily life together. Think about whether you want to get married; have a big or tiny wedding; have children; be with someone who already has kids; live in the future in the same town or city where you’ve been dating; move somewhere far or close; have extended family very involved or not very involved in your life; have a relationship where you socialize almost always together or often; have a partner who’s more of a social butterfly or homebody; and have a partner who is very involved or not very involved in extracurricular activities. Psychological Age You’ve probably heard someone say, “He seems young for his age,” or “She’s so young at heart.” Though we all have a chronological age, we also have what I refer to as a ‘psychological age.’ How old do you feel, for example? In addition, ask yourself what the psychological age is of your prospective older partner. Again, use those early months of a relationship to gauge whether your sexualities are congruent enough. Don’t embrace any rigid rule about age differences. Don’t be fooled into thinking that just because someone is older, he or she isn’t very sexual.