I thank this anonymous gentleman who was generous in allowing me to share it with you.
I read your article posted online on May 13, 2013, and wanted to get your view on being chaste after being divorced four times. I talked to my Pastor at my church and he said that I need to be chaste since I am single now, but I find that hard to do at the age of 56.
I say I made this decision subconsciously and consciously because during this time, subconsciously, I did want to have sex, but I didn’t want to deal with the emotional and possible physical consequences that come along with it, and I didn’t want to have another meaningless sexual experience.
Consciously, I had plenty of options and chances to indulge in sexual intercourse, but I didn’t, and that’s when I realized I was going to try and be celibate.
While I celebrate your courage to make this choice, I know you may feel like it’s almost impossible to find someone who respects your values and is willing to grow with you as you move forward in your relationship.If they decide they can’t handle not having sex until marriage, let them go!Be confident that you will find the right person who will happily respect you.I didn’t want to engage in any type of relationship with the opposite sex because I needed time to learn how to balance everything that was going on in my life.With this hiatus, I realized that I subconsciously and consciously made the decision to practice celibacy.