You see, I have a unique perspective – I’ve not only dated hundreds of women (before I became happily married) but I’m a coach for both women and men. Suddenly, the editors were on the phone with a question: “Funny list, but what about a list for women? It’s not that I was above it; rather, I never even thought about it. You graduated summa cum laude from an Ivy League masters program? I think a lot of women reading your blog are concerned about more than just getting a 2nd date. And from the guys I’ve known, it seems that they care more about sexiness and lightness when it comes to deciding to have LTRs with women.And I’ve had countless nice, decent, relationship-oriented guys tell me why it SEEMED like they really liked a woman but then bailed on her. I finally cobbled something together with the help of some friends. Balance the family photos with you doing something fun—like hanging out at a stadium—so I have a better idea of what our time together will be like.” –James, 42“If the woman’s photos are only with friends, I automatically think she is shy and insecure about her looks.I would like to see a confident picture of her by herself doing something she loves. We have chosen our car, hair, friends, home and hobbies because we enjoy them. Not calling you back even though we said, “I love you? You can save the questions about musings until you see a change in our behavior.A 34-year-old single man has far less interest in planning or pushing towards some future major life goal. This game where you pretend you don’t care and secretly hope we chase you down is for teenagers. See ”You see us as projects you can fix.” I could write a novel on this one.Here’s one thing that all of my work with smart, strong, successful women has brought to my attention – front and center: It’s not easy being a smart woman. The more you have going for you, the less likely you are to settle for less. Having high standards means that dating can be a challenge, and that most men are going to fall short.
Amazingly, the reasons are always the same – and they were the very same reasons I’d pulled away from many surprised, confused women myself… Here’s what I came up with: She wasn’t physically attractive to me.
If you say you like ‘a guy who doesn't take himself too seriously,’ this gives me insight into your personality.” –Dan, 32“I like when her profile shows a little sarcasm and spunk.
Sarcasm can show that the girl doesn’t take herself or life too seriously.
No matter how many women write in to say, ‘I don’t do this! Most women know at an intellectual level that their man isn’t going to be like George Clooney, or Brad Pitt or that Italian guy from 'Under the Tuscan Sun', but in their heart they want it. You don’t need to ask what we’re thinking, just watch what we’re doing. This often expresses itself with regard to hobbies.
’ the fact is many, many, many women practice the behavior that follows. They’ve been fed a fantasy about romance and passion for so long that when a REAL act of love comes down the pike, he notices that the tread on your tires is low and buys a new set, it hardly even registers. A 34-year-old single woman who wants to have children has to think about the future. ” and we say, “Nothing.” You figure this must be a lie, and decide that we aren’t willing to communicate with you. Say a man likes to play golf and has played for years. Without it he will burn up with anxiety and frustration over life’s little indignities.