In a nationwide survey, 9.4 percent of high school students report being hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by their boyfriend or girlfriend in the 12 months prior to the survey.
Recently, I posted about our Q&A times with students at teen camps and retreats. (one way in church, another way at home, dad on the internet) How do you avoid wrong influences when you live with them? How do you take a stand with your friends/what do you do when you have a friend that is becoming rebellious? How do you separate from bad friends without hurting them or making them think you’re stuck up? These questions reveal a lot of real life issues and a strong desire to know “why” or “how.” As adults, we ignore this list to our own detriment.
Any parent of a teenager knows how challenging it can be when a teen becomes interested in dating.
Caring parents try to do all they can to be there for a child who has questions or wants to discuss anything.
But he wasn’t ready yet to surrender his role as a parent. Just what role should parents play to steer a child away from the traps in the most popular sport for many teens—the dating game? For us, dating or courting is a small part of the overall process of determining God’s will for discovering your life partner in marriage.
He hoped the conversation he was about to initiate would help close that gap. ” he asked, struggling to disguise the wobble he felt in his voice. Bill gripped the steering wheel and shot a glance into her eyes. Bill and his wife had talked before with Julie about God’s standards about sex, but soon she would be dating and making moral choices on her own. They were just a block from home, so gently but firmly, Bill pressed the final question: “Well then, would you mind telling me how far you intend to go? ” He stopped the car a few feet short of the driveway and feigned a look into the mailbox. If he had waited for a month, he wouldn’t have been ready for what she said. In our family the focus has not been on dating, but more on training our teens in their character and in how to develop a relationship with the opposite sex.
Other teens date because they feel a closeness with someone or feel understood by the person.
One of the most important things for parents to remember is to communicate with their teen.
It can occur between a current or former dating partner.
Over the past five years, hundreds of questions consistently revolve around the same themes. How can I be a witness to my friends and still be accepted? What’s dangerous or wrong with being physical before marriage? Why is it so hard to be consistent in the Christian life as a teenager? What is appropriate and modest clothing for a Christian and why? This is what our young adults are seeking to understand. This is what holds them back spiritually, emotionally, etc.
If you are a parent or youth worker, this list might help you get into their heads. Thankfully, God’s Word has answers to every issue—and it’s up to us to apply His truth and make it come alive.
The number of incidents and the severity of the abuse increases as the relationship continues. Very few tell anyone who could help, such as a parent a teacher, a counselor, or the police.
About one in ten teen couples is affected by dating violence.