We know of a couple who stayed legally separate but married for some 25 years. It would erode their joint fortune and diminish the money available to their children (they had two).(Indeed, they exist in that state to this day.) The woman, happily living in a townhouse in Miami, plays tennis during the day and spends evenings with her lover, another woman. In the man's case, getting a divorce would only make him available for remarriage, an idea he hardly relishes.He said he was just thinking how good I look, but he didn’t want me to think he was being disingenuous or trying to weasel his way back in with me. The whole lackluster event ended at , only an hour and a half after it started, without us touching each other once. He didn’t try to hold my hand, hug me, or even really get close at all.
I need to let go of my fairy-tale, romantic-movie fantasies.
He said more than once how tired he is and how he falls asleep at 8 most nights. Overall I got too much of a “poor me” vibe and not enough “man of action.” Of course no STD or psychological testing was mentioned.
He complained about the apartment he is renting – how it feels like a jail, how he has to lay on the bed to watch TV, how he wishes he knew earlier that his brother was out of town so he could be staying at his place, etc. I will use this as an opportunity to make myself stronger and healthier.
I often hear from people who are separated and trying to save their marriages.
One recurring theme that often comes up is dating your spouse while you are separated.