There is a mix of good/ mature advice and bad/misleading advice in this book. hammers on about his philosophy with women and how it leads to healthier relationships and greater satisfaction for you.
If you use it, you'll end up wasting a lot of time - especially if you are a beginner. Exception: if you are experienced (so you can tell what won't work) and don't mind spending the money/time there are valuable concepts and tools you can add to Dating to Relating is one of the beginner level dating advice books for men that you see promoted the most on the Internet. He gives you some great mindsets and ways of looking at what you should be doing if you want to ensure relationships last.
On the whole it stays away from teaching you any skills that would be useful with all women, except where he talks about some general rules for relationships.
This can be very appealing to beginners, however, does it work?
I can honestly say that the guys I know from here who are married were dateless until set up by the sister or mother and other by being sent to another part of the world.
Of course the girl wanted a provider from a big family and thought that they could change the guy later.
I won't give it 5 stars because this is written from the perspective of having been in one of the hot spots for cheap and sleazy sex in the 70s- thatwould be NY or California where you could have orgy like porno sex night after night.
Of course the rest of the White Urban American country doesn't want that kind of sex for the most part.
That doesn't mean I can't do it but that the gold mine of opportunties that he talks about does not exist here and we need a strategy to find more available women and probably the means to get over scarcity anxiety and the practice and experiences for good talk with women.
(You see, I am always trying to improve my abilities and learn new things.) I was ASTONISHED to learn that the so called GURUS’ statistics were not as good as mine. They are good guys and you can learn some real truth from each one of them.
And when I wrote to some of them and explained that I tried their program but was getting worse results than I normally got and asked what I might be doing wrong…. But the problem is, their strategies work, BUT ONLY on a certain type of woman, or only in certain situations, and only part of the time.
The Mystery Method teaches you a very similar technique to what I use in the above "bar and club" articles. But that is the only personality type his stuff works on.
He doesn't teach you how to get the other girls in the club.