And don’t forget the other types of love all around you!The bonds you have with family and friends are more important than a few relative strangers’ decisions on whether or not to date you.Does your love life feel like a broken record that keeps skipping the second date?Or maybe it doesn’t even get that far—you enjoy a nice email exchange and a couple phone calls but always wind up riding solo on the Lonesometown Express.So when I say in GBOT, "Don't take rejection personally." I am NOT in any way shape or form being flippant.I know how hard it is to do that, I have done that.
When I was younger I gravitated toward men who would reject and abandon me and treat me badly.That is what I knew and that is what I was comfortable with. Changing self image and rejection takes a lot of hard work, affirmations and positive self-talk (as both GPYB and GBOT lay out in detail.) But putting it to work when you're dating is where the rubber meets the road.I had to learn to treat myself well and think well of myself. You need to teach them you will not be bowed, cowed, or defeated. When you go through a devastating breakup, your self-esteem and self-image takes a hit. I believe that one of the reasons GPYB has been so successful is that I went through the breakup from hell, recovered my senses, discovered/created my life, changed EVERYTHING, and found the love of my life who, unfortunately, passed away from cancer.In an online setting, this blow is often softened a bit by virtue of the different methods of interaction.Because of the nature of online dating, both parties are free to pursue any sort of interaction at their own pace.