Which brings us to a notion that I articulated in which has a funny way of always resurfacing on this blog: “Men look for sex and find love.” This doesn’t mean he’s a player or a liar or a loser. The way he figures out if he really wants to be in a relationship with you is based on the quality time you spend talking over that first month or two.
This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be a good husband and father one day. This is completely separate from his desire to sleep with you.
Advertisement I wish I could tell you why this guy flaked out, but whatever happened, it’s on him, not you. Is online dating more confusing than meeting someone in real life? If they would just stop playing the role of Date Woman playing The Dating Game and relaxed a bit, they’d be happier and their relationships would likely be more satisfying.
Take a few deep breaths, have a few dinners with friends, and go back online. Stop setting goals early on, have fun, be yourself, say what you want to say, stop thinking about dating being some power struggle, and live your life.
It may look, sound and feel like it is, but that doesn't make it so.
This is a conversation and one worth having if you want the relationship to advance.
I know you want a serious commitment and it’s great that you’re clear about your intentions, but that’s a big topic for date four.
Again, you didn’t do anything wrong, but I hope that during the first few weeks of any relationship, you’re allowing yourself to have fun, feel giddy, and ponder the next two weeks as opposed to the next two years. Meredith At work, I’m surrounded by young women who overthink every relationship because they just can’t wait for the one that’s gonna be the one.
Asking eight weeks in if you’re exclusive isn’t wrong, but it sounds like you came on a little too strong in the weeks leading up to that discussion and he cut ties.Even if we can’t go online to see whether someone’s dating profile is hidden, we can confuse ourselves with their Facebook pages or read into text messages and body language.My only advice is to try to enjoy the first few dates without thinking too much about what’s next.Also know that Internet-spawned relationships are no more confusing than the ones that start in a bar or at work.There’s always a weird “what are we” phase after a few weeks.