You're really supposed to get up, get dressed, and go out to meet someone you might not even like? If someone tells you to "put yourself out there" one more time... Luckily, dating feels less strange as you get used to it.Then you'll meet someone, fall in love, and get to that comfortable phase where you can flaunt your weirdness and know they love you for it.Silence is probably the best response, but you can imagine filling the screen with middle finger emojis, if you like.It was like the entire thing was one long movie montage illustrating how perfect your friendships are. You can all move to a commune and just complete each other.The first time someone faded me, I did not take it well.I sent the male in question untold number of reproachful, schoolmarmish texts. I told him over tiny chalices of flora-laden water laced with gin that I understand anxiety and would try to support him through it, but that regardless of the reason, I couldn’t be involved with tepid men. My distress wasn’t merely about having been rejected, though that was part of it.
Step two: feel chemistry, compatibility, and excitement.
It’s hard when men are simply not nice and treat you like shit. The guys that expect you to put out on a third date. The relationships I had been in weren’t the best for my self-esteem.
This kept happening to me while I was single and I finally got fed up. Every guy I casually dated, or flirted it up with was fun… I’ve learned from my relationships and don’t regret them.
Until they realized they had to put in effort and actually get to know me. Every time I felt like there was something wrong with me. But, instead of walking away feeling loved, I felt teased, mistreated, angry, and hurting.
It wasn’t worth waiting for them, and they soon left. The guys had used me for what they needed, and when I was no longer of use to them, they left.