It’s as common a part of the heterosexual male experience as there is: sooner or later, a woman rejects you. Side-steps the kiss you go for at the end of the night. Here’s a few reasons to get us started: 1) We’re not entitled to her acceptance. They are both inevitable parts of life that everyone has to deal with.It doesn’t matter how beautiful, smart, funny, charming, or awesome you are, there will be times when you meet people who just don’t see it.There will be people who don’t get you or who don’t like your look but none of that matters.
Take Kelly; her fear was taking over her life and damaging her relationships."I was always the new kid, trying desperately to be accepted, to fit in! But either way, we have a moral responsibility of dealing with it better. 4) Becoming a disgruntled “rejectee” makes you one step closer to a stalker. 5) Getting upset at her isn’t exactly going to change her mind. Or when we fall prey to layoffs during a bad economy and find ourselves unexpectedly unemployed? And if you do want to change her mind, start by showing you respect her decisions. You letting yourself getting too wounded by her disapproval means you could be on your way to some ridiculous pattern of over-reacting, and at its worst, possibly physical abuse. You’re also screwing it up for all the boys and young men out there in your life who are watching you, observing you are learning from your behavior when you get rebuffed by a woman. If we can’t handle when a woman says she’s not interested, how will be handle it when an employer says the same thing? When we get injured and can no longer run the marathon we’ve trained months for? I’m going to make her pay,” it’s time we all got the fuck over ourselves, and help our fellow men understand that part of being a man is accepting what we can’t change. Even learned swing-dancing last fall so you could charm her on the dance floor. ) But, hey, for whatever, in the end, she opted out. She said, “No thanks.” and maybe never even gave you a reason (which she has no obligation to offer). Unfortunately, that’s the romantic casino you chose to roll the dice in. ” We need to earn our place in their lives through love and respect, not intimidation. And often that “thing” that needs to be changed is simply our attitude. So before the next one of us says, “It’s not fair, I don’t deserve this rejection. Opened the doors for her, had great conversation and maybe bought her dinner. What you can’t do is make it your life’s mission to “get even” with her. And being a man isn’t about not feeling hurt: sure, you can feel hurt, bummed out, whatever. We can knock on the door, but it’s up to them who they allow into their world. Maybe he is the kind of charming, considerate, affectionate man I’ve been looking for after all! We just need to accept the things we can’t change, yet have the courage to change the ones we can.