When it comes to dating, texting—an otherwise casual and informal way of communicating—takes on a different tenor.
I'm given to histrionics, I'll admit, but I'd liken it to psychological warfare.
During the early stages of a relationship, texting is strategic. Two of my hallmark "rules": Don't respond for four (4) hours after the first time "he" sends a text; never text first.
The rules that govern calculated texting (to prove that you're busy, cool, whatever...) also require a concerted effort to masquerade said calculations. And using them, I've found, is like bringing a gun to a knife fight your opponent doesn't even know they are involved in.
Absence creates anticipation and a feeling of "If I don't see her now, I'll die." When he calls, "let your voice mail pick up now and then," says Sherry Argov, author of .
"It shows him that you're worth the wait and effort.
Early-stage TMI is a major turn-off for most males.
"Men feel disoriented when you disclose intimate details too soon," says Kreidman.
When your happiness is rooted in all sorts of things, not just him, you will never have to watch what you say or do for fear of coming off as needy because you will never be needy.
" Besides, you're most likely attracted to a bad boy's confidence, independence or rebellious, adventurous spirit—traits nice guys have too.
You guys have been “hanging out” for a while now, and you’re starting to think you might be on the way to “kind of becoming a thing.” He even called you “sweetie” the other day, so basically it’s only a matter of hours until you meet his mother, right?
Even though we know we should avoid it, the bad-boy charm is sometimes impossible to resist.
But rather than telling you to stay away, we're arming you with everything you need to know to navigate their world like a pro. There are no surprises, but good guys can surprise you in good ways!