Third, I don’t think the pain singles experience is intentionally or even knowingly inflicted by most churches. And hopefully, by having an honest conversation, we can help each other see. That being said, here are the top 7 reasons why I think it’s hard to be single in the church. I’ve heard many, many times from church leaders that some people have “the gift of singleness,” which is divinely given and has nothing to do with that person’s free will. I’m definitely open to the possibility — if it’ll allow me to do something for God that I can’t do as a single person.
Furthermore, if a person has the “gift of singleness,” they know from a young age that they’re meant to be single for the rest of their lives. Paul says in I Corinthians 7 that marriage is a concession, something you’re allowed to do as a last resort if you can’t resist sexual temptation. Will I feel that if I’m single forever, I have a gaping void in my life narrative, or I’ve not been blessed by God? Marriage is a beautiful illustration of Christ and the church.
Schultz" type Germanic tempers, and my potluck dishes often have a price tag on them, when I actually have it together enough to remember to bring one.
However, I LOVE to read, laugh, cuddle, and I was much more impressed that the skinny-guy-with-glasses-who-won-my-heart could tie a cherry stem in a knot with his tongue than I was that he was a seminarian.
” My mind was incapable of imagining a scenario in which a woman–any woman–would sit in a pastor’s office and try to seduce him. Taylor did for us in seminary that day: prepare the young lad for what he would be facing down the road.
This means that nearly every Sunday, at the First United Methodist Church in Huntsville, Alabama, you'll find me mounting the pulpit in a collar and cassock, my black ankle-length robe. I love my career, but it has plagued my love life since I decided to pursue ministry during my senior year of college.
With that not-so-sexy image un-doubtedly in mind, my date backed off. Back then, I was engaged, but my fiancé didn't agree with the notion of women leading the church, so I broke up with him and packed for seminary.
Therefore, if you don’t know that you’re supposed to be single forever, that means you’re supposed to get married. I know lots of single people, even single people who have been single for decades and died single. But even the most amazing marriages only last for five or six decades and then we enter the other side of eternity, where, Jesus says, “they neither give nor are given in marriage.” In the whole scheme of things, marriage is a drop in the ocean of time.
And I don’t know of a single person who knew they were going to be single forever. Marriage is great, but instead of perseverating on it, what if we lifted our eyes to the real promise — that one day we will all be reunited with and “married to” Divine Love for eternity. 3)Marriage is treated as the benchmark for maturity and adulthood.