The opposite is true as well – just because a girl is hugging every guy at a club and twerking on the dance floor doesn’t mean that she has genuine desire and passion on the inside, as it could be all a show or a desperate attempt to attract attention that she is missing so much.
So, don’t perceive the low-key demeanor, modest clothing and quiet voice as negative signs.
With dating, shy men and women come to the table with a minor disadvantage because dating is a social activity, and shy people have a hard time putting their best foot forward with people brand new to them.
After all, it would be truly impossible to deeply care about anyone you’ve just met, so remember that the stranger in front of you on a date shouldn’t have that much more power over your feelings or mood.
If you make sure to play a part setting up the date so you go to places you love – regardless of how the date goes – you will get better at feeling relaxed and avoid thinking about the possibility of rejection. Sometimes shy men and women can be people pleasers.
Because shy men and women tend to be more introverted and more observational thinkers in the first place, not taking things seriously goes against the grain of the shy personality makeup.
But trust me when I say this: As much as a first date seems to matter in the moment, you have to put it all in perspective.