is a biweekly advice column for singles featuring a question from a reader with responses from a male and female point of view.If you've got a question about anything related to singleness or living the single life, please submit it to : I'm seventeen (eighteen in a month) and about to graduate high school.I've been working in youth ministry in some capacity for roughly eight years, and this is one of the most common questions I've fielded from young Christians: “How can (insert boyfriend/girlfriend) and I have a Christian dating relationship? ” As often I've heard it, I still love the the heart behind the question.A couple of youngins' get to dating, and they want to “do it right.” They realize that God is concerned with every aspect of our lives, including our romantic involvements, so they've resolved to have a “Christian” dating relationship and sought guidance. Should we buy a devotional and go through it together? ” If the young man's of a theological bent, he shows up with a potential 10-week preaching series already outlined. As I already mentioned, couples often get this idea that to be truly “spiritual” they should start interweaving their spiritual lives into one.A heart that doesn't submit to listening to the law will be hardened against any call to repentance—that’s the death-knell of any godly relationship. Unless regularly reminded of the grace of Christ, the heart will begin to sink into sin, go into hiding, and find its deepest affirmation in things other than Christ—like an idolatrous focus on your relationship, for instance. ) into an idol, you want them weekly pouring out their hearts in praise to their true Redeemer and Savior.Third, the Word of God truly preached brings us by the power of the Spirit into the presence of Christ. You also want your significant other to have communion with the body of Christ outside of your own relationship. Did you note the developing trend in the four points above?
A couple of months ago, I started to really like my youth pastor.
But that doesn't stop people from asking a lot of intrusive questions about what it means to date someone who's so religious. Excuse me, I thought all clergymen were sequestered from society in spartan towers, high above the temptations we mortals have to face! This question is the dating equivalent of asking newlyweds when they are going to have a baby. thinly disguised as a slightly less forward question. But if it were your business: No, he is not "weird about sex," thank you very much.
Liberal Christians (they do exist, unlike unicorns) get a raw deal thanks to some particularly insane branches of Christianity. Here's a guide to the 10 most common reactions I get when I tell people "My boyfriend is going to be a minister." Yes. Our entire relationship is just a last ditch effort for him to get in as much sexy time as possible before taking that vow of celibacy. Because of the specific nature of my boyfriend's career path, I'm often met with the assumption that I must be doing the exact same thing with my life.
And yet, here I am — a future minister's lady friend. As it turns out, it's actually pretty great dating a future minister.
Seminarians are super intelligent and love having the kinds of deep, philosophical conversations that former liberal arts students like myself also happen to enjoy.